You found me

I once wrote a letter to my future husband whom I hadn't met yet. Today I will go over it again to check if my new boyfriend whom I met a week or so after I had written this letter has fulfilled all of my stated requirements. Everything which is written in bold is what I had written in that letter.

Let's start:

1. When you find me make me laugh before you'll ask me all of these hard boring questions, why am I here and not there, how I got here and why I stayed. Don't ask me what I do at work and don't tell me about your work in a way as if we were in an interview or in an interrogation at the airport. If we can have fun together we are already half way to a happy relationship and not a boring one.

Well, I had already given up on finding the one. I had given up on finding any man. I was honestly not interested anymore. I had planned my life alone and I was happy with that but I was still registered with some dating lines, because it is almost impossible to delete the profile with some of them. Well, I had already forgotten about them and did not really care. One morning I received an email from a dating site which is called  "The Other Half" that someone has sent me an email there. Well, although I had given up on men I was still curious but did not expect anything. Most of the men on this dating site were either ugly or they did not put a picture which means they are either ugly or simply married. In all cases not worth the effort. But this time it was different. There was you. I immediately felt some kind of connection with you. So, I read your email. Well, most of the times I read the emails. Usually they are a one-liner, sometimes only a telephone number. You had sent me a long email, friendly and polite with well chosen words. Although you had sent me your telephone number you were okay with simple emails in the beginning. Later our telephone talks were long and flowing. No stupid questions as if we were in a job interview although you dwelled on how long I would like to stay and if I want to go back. I replied to that that I would go with my man to the northpole if this was a requirement. For someone who loves me and I Iove I can be on any place in the world.

Well, since you don't have a sense of humor as you said, you don't make me laugh but I make you laugh which makes me laugh, so somehow you make me laugh, too.

2. Take me to places I have never been. Don't ask me what I would like to do on the first date. This leaves the impression as if you were not really interested in me but only in getting to know any woman, quickly, uncomplicated and without effort. 

Although our first date was kind of like every date, the second date the next day was a trip to a river in a beautiful valley. This was an amazing trip because you even had prepared food for a picknick. A date so different from all the dates I had before. Interesting, different and not boring at all but wonderful and magical.

We went picking cherries, an idea I had but you changed your plans spontaneously when I coined this idea. A day with so much fun. We even rescued an abandoned puppy from the street which would have died otherwise because of dehydration and overheating.

Yesterday you took me to this amazing restaurant in this ecological village where they served Indian food deliciously as I know it from Berlin. 

Shortly, every time with you is an adventure and never boring.

3. Don't try to kiss me or come with me to my home in the first, second or third date. Don't try to get to my home at all or to invite me to your place. Accept my "No" and don't try to persuade me or to manipulate me by telling me that we are not children anymore but grown up people. When I am ready for more you will notice. 

Well, unfortunately you failed a bit on this. At our third date you suddenly stood in front of my door although I hadn't invited you. You had searched for my name at the doors in the whole house. This had ruined our third date from the beginning and then at the end of the date you tried to get to my place with a strange trick. This had ruined the rest.

Well, fortunately you did not fail on accepting my "No". So, generously as I am I will of course excuse your mistake with a smiley smile. 

4. If you want to contact me and actually it is not a question of "if"...so when you want to contact me you will call and not write messages. You will not ask me if I have "What's up" because this is not interesting for you because you want to hear my voice. Now and then you will send a message but only to show me that you are thinking of me. I don't have to explain to you why I don't have a smartphone. You will not explain to me either that I could buy one. You know that I know that I can go to a shop and buy a smartphone if I want to.

Well, also here you fail a bit. But as I already mentioned I am generous with excusing you with a smiley smile. You hardly call me and very seldom you send me messages only to show me that you are thinking of me. Your messages are looooong. 

Instead of persuading me to buy a smartphone you made a cheap telephone contract for me and my son which I couldn't because I don't have Israeli citizenship. This was a very great thing of you to do and I thank you for that with all my heart.

5. With you I can be as I am. I don't have to pretend to be someone else. I don't have to play games. I don't have to feel bad when I am not like someone else.

With you I can be completely myself every single minute, every single second. I can be as I am in good and in bad without fear of losing you. This is the best gift you make me every single day, every single minute, every single second.

6. On the weekend you want to go outside, to the sea, to the desert, hiking in the mountains. You don't want to sit inside because outside it is too hot, too cold or too dirty. You believe the same like I do that two hours at the sea was not being outside. If something goes wrong you don't freak out but you make the best out of it because you think this is part of the adventure.

Yes!!! You like to travel and to hike and you love the sea too. What more can someone possibly ask for?

You have to find me soon because life is short and very fast over again. One second we were born and the next we depart from here again. Short like the blink of an eye is our appearance on earth. 

Strangely, literally a few days after I had written this you found me as if the Universe had everything arranged. All that I had done in my life, all what I had gone through has taken me to you. Until I had written this letter I wasn't ready to be found by you and also you had other things to do. But you had waited for me as I had waited for you. Sometimes I could feel you and maybe I don't know you also had sometimes felt me. Eventually you had found me here in Haifa having waited only for you.